The modern women love the “sensitive and vulnerable men” more and more. And because these women are the product of modern society and equal rights, they appreciate their men who acknowledge their equal part in the relationship. These men are those who are not intimidated by women that are smart and are generally fine with their women taking charge in their relationship.
What’s the typical guy?
The general society teaches us to view men to be tough in spirit and physique, to not show any sign of weakness and to always be in charge. This image of men can be seen at work, at home, among friends and yes, even during interaction on a date. A sheer sign of weakness is taboo even to this day, being “sensitive” and “vulnerable” are words that do not exist in their vocabulary. They cannot give in to anything that opens up their hearts fully to really care and love. Maybe that is why most men do not “end up” with the one they truly love because they cannot afford to see themselves being submissive to a woman. Their ability to control is as important as the air they breathe. Because of this image of themselves that they protect, women with strong personality are the types they avoid. They are obviously intimidated by what these women can do, often times better than what they can. They would take correction from anybody except for a woman they like but threatens their ego.
The positive side of a submission or vulnerable guy
A guy that is being vulnerable and submissive is given a different meaning – both good and bad. The bad side is that they tend to be manipulated by their partners to the point of being a “slave” in the relationship. While this tendency may be thought as a result of being submissive, the good news is that it is not true at all. Men who allow themselves to be “bullied” by their partners are insecure of themselves. They do not like themselves as an individual so it follows that they do not also respect themselves. How then should they expect others to respect them?
On the other hand, a guy who’s willing to open up to a woman, does her part in the give-and-take of the relationship and allows her girl to take charge in the relationship from time to time is someone who is totally secure of himself. He sees her girl as the “better half” of him and not somebody that will belittle his dignity. In essence he knows and understands that being with a strong-willed woman is actually a good thing for him, because it forces him to be a better person (not in the competitive way) – someone her girl can be most proud of. By allowing his girl to be in charge of the relationship does not mean he has no balls to take it in a direction where both of them can flourish. Instead, it means he allows his girl to flap her own wings and not let the relationship lose her own moral, spiritual and physiological identity. Gender role reversal is very much welcome in a relationship with a vulnerable guy.
Where can you find these kinds of guys?
Are they really needle in a haystack as some women describe in finding them? Maybe and maybe not. The first thing we believe a woman should do is accept that this is the kind of guy that she likes to partner with, in order to have greater peace of mind in a relationship than just going out with guys that hate her strong-woman’s guts. Her circle of friends may mock her in her choice as again, “vulnerability” in a man gives a different kind of meaning (initially) in the society. Some would even say vulnerable men are boring and unsexy. The opposite is true, however – for men who genuinely opens up to a woman in a relationship are more powerful and confident that they know exactly where they stand as an individual. And there is nothing unsexy in being very confident.
For one, you can’t find them in places where the “common guys” hang out. The good guys hang out in better places, mostly doing the best work or minding better issues in the society than just looking for a good lay. That said, you can find them in fine restaurants, clubhouses, in sports centers, galleries or even in some social events. Sure you can come up to them to introduce yourself, but often it’s better to be introduced to them by common friends.
Bottom line, if you want a serious relationship, one that will last and will make you feel emotionally secure then don’t hesitate to go with a sensitive guy. Smart women these days prefer them for a number of good reasons – and these reasons are valid, indeed!