So, you’re back to the dating scene lately, trying to re-learn the dating skills you were once famous for, you know chivalries and all. However, you notice that women these days seem to take a different stand on their men-choices; gone are the days when goodness begets goodness, suddenly you realize modern women hate the predictable men. Because they say these kinds of men are boring. They want their men to push them to the edge. But how could this be? They’re not going to turn you into a Chris Brown, would they?
Well, hold your horses right there! Nobody’s saying you need to give up your good attitude, the ones you learned from dear ‘ol mama and papa. What you need to understand is that having a good attitude is still the best way to live life; it’s still the best way to success. And just like you, there are women out there who prefer, yes, the “predictable” guy not because they lack the sense of adventure, but because they had plenty of that already. When it comes to relationships like-minded women would prefer peace of mind than being pushed to the wall.
However, you can’t deny that you too are attracted to another type of women – women whose purpose in life is to live it with adventure. They’re humorous, sexy and hot, fashionable and yes, smart too. If you’d think about it, you’re attracted to them because they’re different; you’re intrigued by their candidness that is most likely absent from a girl in your office in her reading glasses with head buried on a pile of paperwork. Isn’t it that that girl in your office simply spells boring at face value? ‘Same thing with predictable men.
Tip #1 – Don’t be an open book
Unless the girl you’re with is very much interested in you then reveal as you please, otherwise, refrain from revealing too much about yourself. Just give her bits and pieces of information and not load her everything all at once. If any, avoid talking about your past or personal life. If she asks, say “we’ll get into that soon”. By saying this, you instantly draw the line on what she can and cannot ask you. Doing so also gives her the impression that you can’t be forced, or that you’re no kiss and tell. In effect too, you’re giving her something to “work on” if she wants to know more about you.
Tip #2 – Don’t share her your plans
If you’re going out on a date, don’t reveal your plans. However, make sure your date plans are something she’ll be most pleased or else you might get another strange reaction from her. The best plans are those she does not expect, at least from you. True, women like the sense of excitement in a connection or relationship that is unpredictable, but deep inside they’re hopeless romantic. So a good example for this would be to take her to a butterfly garden-turned-fine dining area for a nice dinner complete with a display of colors by these lovely creatures.
Tip #3 – Go against the grain
Sure you’re a typical guy, and guys do and talk about the same things. However, even as a man, you should know the difference between lameness and exciting, so why bother repeating what other guys do, especially when those things that they do aren’t working well with the woman’s relationship-wise? Why follow the herd when the herd is heading in the wrong direction? Isn’t it the reason why women tend to generalize men a lot of times? When they complain, you’ll hear them say “all men are this and all men are that . . .” And sadly there’s half-truth to this. So from now on, do something different for a change. An example would be giving her unannounced lunch visit at her office with a takeout of her favorite pizza in hand.
Tip #4 – Make unpredictable random funny comments
Actually, this means finding something unexpected to laugh about. If you think Jersey Shore is a flush in the toilet, say so. Disagree with her opinion and turn that into a healthy argument. A well delivered joke is unpredictably sexy because not all men can genuinely make a woman laugh. If you have a knack for this, then use it to your advantage.
Remember, being unpredictable is not likened to being “bad”. Women who prefer unpredictable men are after the fun and spontaneous adventure; women who prefer bad men are obviously sadist and require mental rehab themselves. Being unpredictable help puts energy to a relationship, it makes women have something to look forward too. Just like a good movie, you’re more engaged when you don’t know what will happen next. Men, too, need to be just like that.