Do you ever wonder sometimes how some “lucky” guys get all the nice girls? Or why some girls are at their beck and call, continuously following them around? If you’d observe close enough, there isn’t anything particularly interesting in the way they look, nor do they look any better than you. But just the same they are popular with the girls. You are now convinced that looks aren’t everything – but what exactly is it about them? The answers can be summed up in one word: enigma.
Why mysterious men are attractive
Enigmatic or mysterious men are very attractive to women because of the thrill of the unpredictable. Our minds are hardwired to follow through with something that challenges us. Much like a good book, the more it thrills you in every page, the more you can’t put the book down. Same thing with men, the less you know of him, the more your mind is compelled to know more about him. Likewise, the less he shows he’s interested in you, the more it challenges you to attract him. Ask any woman and she’ll validate this claim. She’ll tell you exactly that a guy that is too predictable is ho-hum boring! No suspense means “nothing” to look forward to.
Can mysterious men be equaled to “bad” men were a lot of women are also attracted to? Of course not; both are entirely different, even if both present some “unpredictability” to women in general. Women are attracted to mysterious men for the challenge, while women are attracted to bad boys for the sense of adventure. They can’t be compared.
Are you the type of person who can stay mysterious?
Unless you want to remain on the sidelines then know that creating a mysterious persona can actually be learned. There’s great benefit to you in doing this as well. By being mysterious, you let others know, girls most especially, that you can’t be forced to commit to anything unless you find it really interesting. You are also sort of “drawing the line” and kind of training them to “not cross this line until I tell you so”.
How do you stay mysterious?
Do you go by a different name? Do you need to make a career out of being incognito? Going around with a false identity is not being mysterious; it’s simply being a liar. First, you need to know the difference. Not being an open book to just about every girl you meet is what this is all about. You don’t meet or see every girl and expect yourself to load them with a bunch of your personal information that nothing is left for her to know about you. Even if they try to dig for deeper information on your first meeting, you don’t have to answer them. Besides, not everything about you must be spilled on the first few dates. If you talk too much about yourself, you’d appear narcissist or you would show lack of self-control. In fact, the girl may start to think that your disclosures (that are all about you) are totally inappropriate at some point. She may even start to feel anxious that you’d demand the same information from her. One thing is for sure, remain as a talking machine and expect her to lose interest right away. You’ve just killed your chances of getting totally hooked up with this girl.
The spontaneous appeal
By being spontaneous, you lead the girl to adventure (the good type). Even if your connection blossomed into something romantic later on, spontaneity is the spice that would help keep the relationship (and yes, sex) alive! Isn’t it true that the lack of spontaneity can turn a once passionate relationship into a platonic one? How do you act spontaneously? If you are going out on a date, never reveal your plans. When she least expects it, treat her to a fine dining experience. When you maintain to appear too busy for her, pay her a sudden visit complete with the works like a Chinese takeout, a wine and a bouquet of flowers.
The open loop technique
This technique is common to mysterious men, but not to be taken as a manipulative ploy for women. This is just a simple technique of leaving your lady “hanging on the edge” of suspense. It’s like saying “I’d like to give you something, but then again I won’t – not yet”. Why should you do this trick? For the thrill of “waiting” of course! Take this for instance: you text her to say: “I saw something that reminded me of you, now I can’t stop thinking about you. If I could only talk to you now and tell you what I thought. But I’m in a middle of a meeting, so I’ll just call you soon.” When she receives this text, she’ll feel a sense of eagerness to talk to you and maybe attempt to call right away. Meanwhile you keep your phone busy so that her calls won’t come through. Then let a few days pass before calling her; once you’re on the phone with her, never mention the text at all. That’s the drama of an open look technique!
Keep in mind that these are not manipulation techniques. These are simply ways to keep her interested when you yourself aren’t very sure if she’s the right person to stay totally connected (exclusively, at least) with. On the other hand, if you find yourself totally attracted to a girl that you barely know, and you seem to be always at the edge of your seat in anticipation of her moves, then she might just be using the very same tricks on you!