It’s my opinion that the guy should select where to go on a first date. Women like a man that is decisive. So don’t ask her what she would like to do. Tell her where you’re going. As long as it’s a fun activity in a location that will make her feel comfortable, she’ll say yes. If it’s an activity that she thinks is lame or is at a venue that she would not feel comfortable at, she’ll say no.
There are plenty of great ideas for first dates. It’s best to be creative because that will impress her. You can take her to a fancy restaurant with a scenic view. You can get really creative and go hiking, on a hot air balloon ride, or some other cool outdoor activity. I’m not going to get into details in this post about where to take her because I wanted to spend one post discussing where not to take her. I think this is equally important. There are millions of places you can take her that she won’t be down for, but this list will give you some general ideas for where not to go…
Out to a club if you suck at dancing
I’m not much for meeting a woman at a club even if you’re a great dancer and she loves dancing. I think it can be a fun activity AFTER dinner, but still not the best place to go for various reasons. However, it’s an absolute no-no if you’re not a good dancer. You’ll make a fool of yourself and won’t impress her. Be honest with yourself. If you don’t have the moves like Jagger, say no to dance clubs.
Making it rain at the Strip Club
This one is a bit silly but I thought I would list it anyway. Yes, some knuckleheads really do take a woman to a Strip Club on a first date. I can’t think of a worse time to chat about common interests than when you have a naked ass shaking on your lap. Unless she’s a total whore, don’t go to the Strip Club.
“Cuddling” on your bed (or hers)
I’ve tried this once or twice when I have been mostly just looking to get laid. It didn’t work. I used the, “I just want to cuddle and watch a movie” line as a way of setting myself up to get down her pants. Bad idea. Women are smarter than that and won’t take the bait. I usually get the, “so do you usually like to just cuddle with women” response. Never start out the date back at your place or hers. She won’t be comfortable with it. If things go great on the date and you end up back at your place “cuddling” with her, that’s fantastic.
At least take her to Wendy’s! I’m kidding, don’t take her to either. Don’t be a cheapskate. Take your date somewhere nice. That may require spending a little bit of money, but it’s a worthwhile investment. Nothing turns a woman off quite like a man that isn’t willing to spend money on his date.