Women like to challenge men in many different ways; to test them if they are truly deserving of their time and affection. You could say that, indeed, one of their favorite pastimes is “playing hard to get”. Men are not up for it, in fact they find this terribly annoying, a useless ploy to get attention. For men, “playing hard to get” is a total waste of time and energy. It’s no wonder some men give up on pursuing the woman they like, not realizing she’s worth the trouble. If you’re like most men who give up easily, you might miss out on a girl with a great personality, a crazy sense of humor and incredible in bed.
There are several reasons why a girl plays hard to get with guys; you’d be surprised that a lot of them are valid. If a girl is giving you a hard time, do not rush yourself into thinking that she doesn’t like you. If you have not done anything wrong, then there’s no real reason for you to give up too soon. If the thought of women trying to play hard to get keeps bugging you, here are some of those reasons:
They are judged as an “Easy Girl”
Being judged as an easy girl is not a good reputation for women. It’s hard when you’re called as cheap, whore, prostitute or slut by other women and sometimes by men themselves. No girl in her right mind will want to be associated with any of those words that is why they will do anything to act and be seen as tough and cannot easily be sweet-talked.
They get the influence of magazines
Most women like to read magazines during their spare time – and lots of them! Relationship, sex, fashion and beauty are among their favorite subjects in these magazines. And just like you, when you see published articles on dating advice, you’ll treat that advice as the Holy Grail. Needless to say, they heed on a lot of “play it hard to get” advices on these magazines. (Yep, what a shame!)
Her friends are behind the idea too
If the girl is playing hard to get, it’s possible that her friends are influencing her. It is possible too that she gets greater criticism from them. There is obviously peer pressure within her group so she’ll do anything to gain her friend’s respect.
She could be testing you
Women are attracted to men who have self-confidence. They know that confident men can make them feel safe and comfortable and can attend to a woman’s emotional and physical needs. In order for a woman to know if you are like one, she needs to show you that she is a strong and independent.
Now that you know why a woman likes to play hard to get, it’s time to know what to do about it:
Don’t take no for an answer
If you ask for her number and she says no, don’t give up so easily; there may be good reasons why she said no. It could be that you are showing the desperation in asking for her number without even getting to know her better. Naturally, no girl in her right mind will give her number to a guy she barely knows – or else she will be treated as “cheap”. Instead, show her your sincerity in getting to know her first so in return she can begin to trust you.
Always be cool and never be desperate
You can tell by her actions and the way she talks to you if she is interested at the onset of your date. If not, don’t lose focus, stay cool and whatever happens never look desperate. Play by ear on what to discuss and be smart enough to know if she’s interested in what you’re talking about or not.
If she’s acting on her “hard to get drama”, never take it too personal
To test if you can really handle the pressure, she may give you bits and pieces of criticism or remarks about yourself to see your reaction. Be warned that some of these criticisms maybe too personal. Whether she means them or not, just remember to stay calm. You don’t have to answer back if some of it hurts you now you don not really need to ride along with her ploy. Remember, you too are qualifying her personality; if you think she’s quite shallow to need to do this ploy of hers, then maybe that’s the part where you’ll just finish the night off, say your goodbyes and be thankful she saved you the trouble of wasting any more time with her. Remember, smart and confident girls don’t resort to dramas like these.
Women will do anything just to get your attention and this will make you want them more. It may be ironic because playing hard to get is about making a man feel that a woman doesn’t like him. You can call it as reverse psychology but it’s just a woman testing a man if he is the real deal.