If you would observe the characteristic of a person, you’ll find each to be either “spontaneous” or “structured”. You know exactly how these two characteristics are especially in how they talk and deal with a lot of things at work or at home. If you’d consider yourself in this same observation, you too are either spontaneous or structured. Mind you, no one is born with these characteristics that if you’re more like a structured person you can learn to become spontaneous and vice versa. But you may ask “what is better” or “what do other people like the most”.
The difference between the two
A structured individual is one who is a good “manager” of every single thing. Be it money, time, work, house chores and just about any stuff. In other words, they are good at keeping things in order. There’s a good reason for this, they find life to be less complicated when everything is “where they are” or every schedule is “on the dot”. If your co-worker excels in this kind of organization, then expect him to become a good department manager someday. Well, yes, you could say that this kind of person is a bit boring – all work and no play.
On the other hand, a spontaneous person in one that has no particular “plan” for today or tomorrow. Their favorite hymn is “Que sera, sera; whatever will be, will be!” They simply allow each moment to take its natural course. In other words, they allow every moment of every day to “surprise” them. Sounds like a fun person to be with? Yes and no. While some find spontaneity to be a good and cheerful way to live life, others just don’t. And just like everything else, there are always the pros and cons.
Live life stress-free
A lot of people still want to hang out with the spontaneous guy. And why not, they are so much fun to be with, they lead you on a cheerful night of gag and laughter, they seem to never run out of anything to laugh about. At work, their spontaneity shows off in their creativity – with ideas that are unconventional and out of the box but are obviously products of a genius mind. They are not shy or timid and not afraid to speak their mind. To them, the workplace is just a playground for their spontaneous mind. At home, they are the stress neutralizer. Nag about his undone chore and in a little while you’ll hear him whistling that chore away. If you’re dining out with him, he’s not afraid to try out dishes that he doesn’t even know. For him, if he made a mistake, it’s ok, tomorrow’s another day. A spontaneous guy’s attitude is even contagious; with the way he always chooses to see the brighter side of things and to not take things too seriously, you can’t help but envy him. However, unless you are a naturally cheerful person then don’t expect yourself to speak, act or live spontaneously.
You need mental and psychological organization to get ahead
This is not to say spontaneous guys don’t get ahead because they do, except that the structured ones tend to get to their destined goal much faster and on time. Surely you can’t take that against them by being well organized, making every single part of their plan work and possessing greater ability to stay focused. If not for these kind of guys, there won’t be big businesses or economic leaders that shape our day-to-day lives. The setback of course is since they thrive on hard work, they tend to suffer from lifestyle diseases and yes, you could say, die early (and maybe lonely too!).
There is an obvious conflict in these two characteristics but the truth is a person can be both spontaneous and structured if he decides to choose to. Be too spontaneous and watch yourself lose grip in making your dreams come true due to lack of organizational discipline. Be too structured and watch yourself be taken down by stress long before you enjoy your fruits of your labor. Balance is the key to living life to the fullest– having the focus to make dreams come true while embracing surprises that you might encounter along the way. How should you do this? Find out what your strengths and weaknesses are and start from there. If you’re a spontaneous guy find a buddy with a structured personality and vice versa and learn from each other. Just enjoy spur-of-the-moment things while maintaining focus on what needs to get seriously done. Practice this “flexible” attitude and notice just how better things will become.