What a bonus if you’re working in an environment of good people, supportive bosses and healthy work challenges – but all the right reasons to get to work feeling excited each day is not only because of pretty girls at work but there’s this one particular girl that you really, really like. We all know that being in the same workplace with the one we really like making our day brighter and overall work becomes less stressful. Who could not take notice of that smiling, dewy eyes looking right back at you, or that light arm touches when you’re caught alone in the pantry during coffee breaks, or that very helpful gesture that she makes to help you finish work on time? More than her pretty and sexy looks, you’re very much attracted at just how fine even her personality is. And if you’d consider your own feelings and how this girl is affecting you, you can’t see any reason why it’s wrong to stay attracted to her. After all, you work better around her, you force yourself to be the best at work, you improve your looks and you even improve your interaction with other co-workers in the office. Everything just feels right. So why would dating this girl be a bad idea?
To date or not to date: that is the question
Truth is, not even work can come between two people that really like each other. Half of our lives are spent looking for our perfect match, the majority of our relationships turn sour; why stop then at a good chance of being with the person that is just right for you even if that person happens to be a co-worker? This goes without saying that if you are the relationship-serious guy or a “prize catch” for any girl that is looking for a guy that will treat her right then dating your co-worker is the most sensible thing.
On the other hand, if you’re the type of guy that is only in for the attraction, just trying to win a girl to add to your trophy ladies, then better think twice at the very onset. You’re headed for more trouble than you think. If fun is all that you are looking for, you can get that elsewhere outside of work.
Here are what to expect
After dating this girl that you really like, you will start to notice that you are actually getting better and better at work, even with your other co-workers. Naturally, if everything is working out as you expect them to be, there’s a good chance that in only a matter of time this connection will be raised to a higher level. You want to give her all the good reasons to make “others” feel that you’re a good choice. Everyone else is cheering both of you on this prospective relationship.
Toss the coin to see the other side
She likes you but you soon found out she’s not girlfriend material. She’s too career-oriented to allow herself total distraction. Unlike you, she can’t balance both romance and career – in which case she needs to choose just one. She dated you to “test the water” but not enough to take a dip. Ouch! Should you start dating her even before you get to this point? Are you ready to take this sudden blow? Even if you turn the table around and you are the one “testing the water”, will she be able to take your rejection gracefully? Will it not affect your harmony together at work? How about your sudden change of image from being the “prize catch” to being the “player”? If that image somehow would affect your overall work performance because others may start to avoid helping you, is that something you think you can handle?
What’s in it for you?
Like anything else you plan to do, you spend time thinking if it’s worth your effort or worth the outcome. You think about the pros and cons and equally imagine yourself succeeding and failing. Obviously, there is nothing wrong with welcoming success, but failure – it may not be something you’re ready for.
Before taking that step, think twice. It’s easy to fall in love with the feeling of being in love and jump in blindly (never mind what happens next). If you are the kind of person that finds it hard to move on from rejection or bittersweet romances then you need to step back a little to give yourself a brighter and wider perspective. Avoid being “subjective” at the onset of attraction with this girl so you’ll able to weigh things wisely. A clearer head will allow you to “see” beyond your infatuation and help you determine whether dating her is really a good idea or not.