The first date is always an awkward moment for a couple because chances are you barely know each other and it means you are both trying to give a good first impression. It is important to have a successful first date, so that later you’ll know if both of you have made that “connection” and if it is worth pursuing. Unfortunately, the majority of the time you fail in giving a good first impression, resulting in poor chances of knowing and seeing more of that girl. So now that you’re going out on a first date with a new girl that you like, you’re anxious again as to how you should properly conduct yourself with her.
Here are some first date mistakes that you should avoid at all cost:
Trying to amaze your date to a point that you become annoying, boastful and arrogant will do you no good. To amaze your date, you sometimes pretend to be someone you’re not; this will cause you to brag, exaggerate or even lie about who you really are. This is not a good way to impress someone.
You may hear this a million times but just being yourself is the best way to go. There is no need to say that you are a successful business man or woman when you are just recently unemployed. Be honest about who you are and your date will appreciate it more.
Being a chatterbox
It doesn’t help your chances of getting a second date if you talk too much, especially if you only talk about yourself, running your mouth for an hour on a topic she finds uninteresting. This happens whenever you feel nervous. You will notice if your date is not interested if she checks the time or she suddenly looks around; why wait for it to happen? But if your date is the one who asks, just keep your answers brief and remember to downplay things a bit. It’s important to also give your date the airtime to also talk. Your communication should be both ways. If you are nervous, just simply admit it and try your very best to relax. Soon after that you’ll start to have an exciting conversation.
Expecting more out of your first date
The main goal of a first date is to have a good first impression and nothing more; expecting too much out of it will surely frustrate you. Having two lines of communication also will lead both of you to disappointment. For example, you’re thinking of her being your booty call, while she thinks of you as a boyfriend material. This goes without saying that if you talk about sex to her whom barely know, it will surely show that you are a sex-desperate person.
Avoid personal topics
It’s good that you are eager to know more about her but there are certain topics that you should avoid asking her during your first date. Being comfortable with each other on a first date is important and asking personal topics like past relationships or family problems are not a good topic to talk about.
There are also questions that you need to avoid asking her, for example, questions like “do you like me?” “how is the date going so far?” and one of the most awkward of all is “can you rate this date?”. Don’t turn your first date into a job interview or an audition. Keep your questions focused on your date’s personal interests and remember to never ask anything personal.
Bad hygiene and manners
What in the world are you thinking going on a date without even taking a shower or even brushing your teeth? Having a bad hygiene or manners will definitely ruin your chances on her — plain and simple. Going on a date “not looking prepared” says a lot of negative things about you. One thing is, it says you don’t respect your date enough to comb your hair well or arrive with a totally worn out clothes all sweaty and greasy! This doesn’t mean you have to buy expensive clothes just to impress; you only need to dress appropriately and clean.
Keep in mind these first date mistakes and make sure you avoid committing them and you will find yourself having a great time with your date. And if you ace your first date, you might even find yourself having an opportunity of getting a second date. Once you learn the ropes on what to do on a first date, you will have a clear understanding on what your date really wants.