Ok, so it’s unintentional that guys tend to make stupid remarks on a date, but nonetheless, you have to be sensitive as to how your date will take them. In other words, don’t act goofy and just be downright serious with your conversation when on a date. Sure you want to crack some humor by saying remarks you obviously know she might react negatively to. Unfortunately, your choice of joke didn’t work; because some remarks are just hurtful and humiliating; girls wonder how guys developed such stupidity. Say the wrong words and instantly watch her mood fly off the window. Don’t be surprised to see that she’s suddenly turned into an ice-queen; and if you don’t already know it, it’s a signal that says you need to cut the date short. Don’t expect to get another date with this girl either!
So what is it about these “words”? Well, especially for single girls, there are certain words or topics that you should avoid mentioning even during a casual talk. Unlike with single men, single girls are often attached to a stigma that says “desperate”, “unwanted”, or “always the bridesmaid and not the bride”. It’s as if there’s a serious crime in being single and that there’s something wrong with her that’s why she’s single. In any case, if you want to ace a date with a girl you really need to be careful that you must not even consider saying these words . . . .
“Wow, you really make me hot!”
As in? It took you forever to ask this girl a date and that’s all you can repeatedly say the whole night? Stop thinking from your crotch for just a little while and just appreciate her for a moment. At least stimulate her intellectual mind first so she’ll have enough reasons to think you’re not as dumb as you appear to be.
“Your ex sure is stupid for letting you go”
Can you please leave the ex out of the conversation for now? That remark is really not helping; you are not in the position to say that since you don’t know how her previous relationship turned out. Besides even if he was stupid to allow her to deal with that issue herself. Save the ‘’I’m interested to know what happened’’ for a later time when both of you are feeling much comfortable with each other and when you have already demonstrated trustworthiness to her.
“You’re smart and classy, so why are you single?”
Don’t you think no single smart and classy girl has asked that question to herself? Even if she knows the answer to that question, is it her fault if she finds her ex or those pursuing her not fitting to her man-standards? Likewise, It is not her fault is she finds her career more fulfilling than having to be with a man. Please give her a break; if you see that she’s not wearing a sad single lady’s face then maybe she’s just cool with that. And if she’s cool, then her being single should be the least of your concerns. Just focus on the brighter side, if she isn’t single you wouldn’t be dating her now, would you?
“You’re just too picky”
Come on, who isn’t? Would you commit to a relationship to just about anyone you go out with? If a girl appears to be a lunatic with all the signs of obsessiveness, wouldn’t you stay away as far as possible? If the girl turns to be a cheat, would you rather stay with her than risk being called “picky”? Obviously not! So why ask a question for which you already know the answer? Surely, it is not right that she has to lower her standards for the sake of keeping a relationship. Everyone who wants to find his or her true partner in life “must” be, in any way, picky lest you suffer a life of misery.
“You should go out more often”
Again, you’re making her feel desperate. Sure, she’d meet someone when she goes out but simply going out will not guarantee her meeting the “right” guy, so why should she consider that to be a good advice?
If you don’t want animosity to begin and end your date, then be careful with what you ask or say. Just focus on your date and her good qualities. Words like “I’m glad we finally had the chance to go out” or “you look very lovely when you smile” or “did you like the flowers I sent you?” – Words that will put a smile on her face; words that show your sensitive and gentle side. Just be like this for the rest of the night and for sure you will never be dealt with a smirk, a cold stare or the bitchy tone.