You are dating a girl that you really like for quite a while now and you secretly want to pursue her for a romantic relationship; however despite the many good times you were together and despite the positive hints she gives you, you still find it hard to say where you really stand. ‘Thing is, you’re spending dreadful hours wondering where this connection will both lead you and you’re too anxious to ask as it may come as “fast” and “demanding”. You can’t seem to find the right timing. Is she just leading you on; is she “really” also into you but would just like to take a little more time before allowing this connection to move to another level? Because you’ve been constantly going out for a while, you already have common friends telling you that you two have a “good chance”. How long should you wait is a question that forever hangs in your head. What if you try to make her jealous, will it work to your advantage?
The good side of coming up with a “jealousy” ploy
Jealousy is part of every man’s personality; there is no one person that has not felt jealousy nor acted jealous in some way – it’s part of human nature, an instinct that is far too common even among animals. We have a natural tendency to “own selfishly” whatever we like; jealousy and fear that others may take what we think belongs to us are what drive us to “fight” for that right. You can see this happening at work, among friends, among families and yes, even on the dating scene. In the animal kingdom, jealousy is being used to ploy female animals for mating. The same stands true between a man and a woman. A man can actually use jealousy to his advantage and, if done right, get whatever he wants. However, keep in mind that overdoing this may do more harm than good; you might just end up not having anything at all.
Use jealousy to know where you stand with the girl that you like
Again, if your objective is to find out where you stand with this girl that you are dating, but can’t ask the girl straight just yet, then use jealousy to make her show her true feelings for you. If the girl has been too comfortable dating you but not committing to anything yet even if you are ready for it, then jealousy may just force her to do just that. If everything went well, you’ll be speeding up your goal which is to up this connection with this girl. But don’t forget to proceed with caution. . .
First things first
As much as possible avoid mentioning to anyone that you’re putting up a ploy to make this girl that you like feel jealous. The less people that know the ploy, the better; if your ploy backfires, no one else will bug you with regret except yourself. Likewise, you might want to polish on your acting starting now; the finer you act, the more convincing you’ll become.
One step at a time
Base your jealousy ploy on your current status with her. Are your feelings for each other developing or not? You don’t want to overdo this ploy or it may blow your chances on her. What you are just trying to do is force her to make up her mind into saying “yes we’re now officially a couple”. Take a cue on her body languages and the way she enjoys being with you.
Ploy #1 – Appear busy suddenly
That’s right. If you are too available for her in the recent past, this time start acting busy. If you two are developing the habit of talking on the phone almost daily, reduce your calls to just two in a week. If she is accustomed to you texting her or replying to her texts right away, this time, don’t reply at all. If you are sending each other email, send less. If you are keeping a pre-scheduled dates then make it less frequent. If you keep this consistent, it is almost impossible that she will not take notice. Meanwhile, mention your reason for being busy to your common friend so that there is someone that bridges the message between you and her. But be wary, she may begin to think you are starting to see someone else apart from her.
Ploy #2 – Create a connection with her girlfriends
If she mentions that she’s going out with the girls, ask where this will be. Then let one of your guy friends accompany you to a short “drop by” to the place. Come up with a convincing alibi. Then once there, walk up to her and her friends. If you still do not know her friends, expect to be introduced, and then do the same by introducing them to your friend. At this point, shift your attention to her friends and keep them engaged with you by cracking some jokes. The vision of you with her friends laughing together is definitely something to be jealous about! Keep these going for a while before finally saying goodbye. But before finally leaving with your friend, turn to your girl to say “I’ll call you soon!” or “I’ll see you soon”. This means that even if you did have a great time with her friends, you are still assured your “connection” with her.
After giving her reasons to feel jealous, try asking her regarding the status of your relationship. Chances are her reply will be different than before. If any, it’s going to be in your favor! If she happens to open up that she somehow felt jealous “lately” then this is now your chance to reassure her that you only have eyes for her. Congratulations! Mission accomplished!