There’s a misnomer about women on relationship-based dating service websites many guys make. They assume this because their date is looking for a relationship, they shouldn’t open up to her sexually. How many times have you heard a woman say they want a “true gentleman” and not a “dirty pervert”? Almost EVERY woman says that. And the clueless guys will take that to mean she won’t even talk about sex until at least the 10th date.
If you make it to the 10th date with a woman without getting sexual, she’s either a prude (very few women are) or she’s tricked you into thinking she likes you but really just enjoys having a guy take her out to dinner. Sex is just as important to a woman in a relationship as it is to a man. The difference is women don’t have sex on their minds 24/7 like we do. There’s a reason women cheat almost as much as men – because they aren’t completely satisfied in the bedroom (that’s the main reason, at least). So don’t be afraid to bust out a little sexy talk (not too early in the conversations, though). And follow this advice on how to get her to open up to you sexually…
Talk about what you’ll do for HER
Unselfish guys in the bedroom are in high demand. Women love to hear what you’ll do for them instead of what you want her to do to you. Most guys are quick to brag about how awesome they are in bed, but never mention what they’ll do for a woman. If you start talking sexually to her about how you can please her instead of bragging about what a stud you are, she’ll be open to not only discussing sex with you, but possibly actually having sex with you.
Wait until she’s comfortable with you
“Hi my name is Mike, how are you doing? Good, that’s great, can I get a blowjob?” is a sure fire way to get ignored instantly. Timing is crucial when starting to talk about sex with her. Don’t ever bring sex into a discussion with a woman until you are certain she’s comfortable talking to you. How do you know she’s comfortable talking to you? If she is responding to your questions and comments with more than 1-2 word answers and responds quickly. Those are good signs she likes you.
Don’t wait forever to start talking about sex with her. Sex is part of a relationship – an important part. Women don’t like entering into relationships with men that suck in bed. Imagine getting involved emotionally with a woman that you have no sexual connection to. You’ll end up cheating on her. Same thing with a woman. That’s why you shouldn’t worry about bringing up sex before getting too emotionally involved. She wants to know if there’s a sexual connection before she gets emotionally involved.