The biggest fear most of us guys has been – Rejection. Nothing sucks more than getting shot down by a girl you really like. However, it’s part of being a dude. It’s a confidence killer, only if you let it be. You can’t take rejection personally. If you ask a girl to meet you and she declines, move on. She’s not the only girl online. It just wasn’t meant to be. You’re not her type. So what? Maybe the next girl you talk to will think you’re her type. And maybe she’ll be even more your type. Here’s some advice on how to deal with rejection…
Figure out why you got rejected
Most women won’t be honest about why they reject you. Sometimes it’s something that would hurt your feelings and so they’ll usually let you down nicely. However, you can figure out what you did to get rejected – if you did anything wrong at all. The first assumption almost every guy makes is she rejected him because of his looks. The truth is looks are actually one of the least common reasons a girl rejects a guy online.
Think about it. If she even bothered talking to you in the first place, there was some sort of attraction. Sure, maybe sometimes a better looking guy comes along and so she ditches you. But that’s a rare case. Step back from your emotions and be honest with yourself. Did you say something offensive? Was the conversation you had with her boring? Were you unable to make her laugh? Did you come off as needy? There’s a reason she rejected you. Figure out what that reason was so you don’t make the same mistake with the next girl.
Get back on your game right away
Rejection sucks and makes you feel down. The best way to forget about the last girl that rejected you is to get back on a dating site and start flirting with other women. You’ll forget she even existed the instant some other girl starts giving you attention. No rejection should ever linger. But it will if you don’t get back on your game right away.
One of the main reasons some guys use dating service websites is because they don’t want to deal with rejection like they do offline. Unfortunately, you will get rejected as much online as you do offline. The difference is you won’t get rejected face-to-face. The best advice I can give you is to simply forget about it when a girl shoots you down. Understand that every guy in the history of the world has been rejected by women. It’s part of being a guy. Don’t sweat it. Move on to the next one. If you keep plugging away at it, eventually (soon) you’re going to find that special someone.