The woman you’ve been dying to take out has finally agreed to see you. Congratulations! In your previous conversations, you’ve done all the possible ways to appear interesting, so she’ll agree to go out on a date with you. Then finally it happened. Good for you!
However, you’re now more anxious than ever. Sure, you’ve dated several women before and it’s just like riding a bike, but this time you want to ace this date so well because you want to score a second one. Truth is, there are no foolproof ways to guarantee a successful date. This is because it takes two to make a date successful. Even if you do all the best you can and your date is short of bored and impolite (probably because of her attitude) then you already know how the date would turn out.
Still, even if you can’t control how your date will act for the night, it is still right for you to aim to ace this date. That is a healthy sign that you are not just after self-satisfaction but you want to please your date as well. Here are some proven ways to help ace your first date with this new woman:
Show your interest by being well prepared
Nothing turns a woman off than going out with someone who has not made out a plan for the day or night. Sure, spontaneity is cool but not all women enjoy unplanned dates. At least let her know what you plan out for her on your date and how she should dress up. She won’t enjoy it if for some reason she finds herself over or under dressed in the kind of date you have in mind. Don’t assume, instead take cues from your previous conversation on what interests her.
Preparing also means preparing how you’d look. It is not to say you have to pressure yourself for this date. Simply polish your get-up, trim your hair, polish your teeth, check your breath, clean your nails – in other words try your best to look clean and attractive. Don’t forget to pick the right perfume too! Women appreciate it when their date appears polished even if their date is not very good-looking. This is so because women love to prettify themselves for their dates too.
Keep a cheerful and positive attitude
Nothing beats a positive aura. No matter how you want to control it, you can’t expect everything to be perfect. Having a positive attitude of seeing the good in the bad is very attractive in a guy. For instance, you’re both 30 minutes late for a booked dinner, your steak didn’t taste good at all, or the food attendant seemed to be nasty to all dating couples – a guy with a positive attitude will just laugh and make no big deal out of it. At best, you shouldn’t let anything ruin your night. Give each bad occurrence a dash of humor; that’s a better memory to remember than you are the guy with a short temper. And don’t forget: compliment, compliment, compliment; every woman loves a compliment. But you can’t give that sincerely if you’re not a cheerful person.
Strictly no dull conversation
Avoid boring and typical dating conversation topics. Make yours different by not badmouthing your ex, rant over co-workers, making a litany of sad stories or asking her to talk about her ex. These topics should be left out to discuss further in your future dates when both of you get more comfortable. You didn’t go out to be counselors to each other, right? Avoid confrontations and don’t lecture either. Instead discuss interesting topics about travels, personal interests (except religion and politics), a funny or a feel-good story. Make sure you keep a balanced share of the conversation and not just one-sided. Likewise, avoid being distracted by looking at other women across the room, or make sure you listen well to your date’s share of the conversation. The moment she sees and feels that your attention is not glued on her, you can kiss that wish for a second date goodbye!
Don’t push the envelope
Ok, so your date is hot; but that doesn’t mean you will push the “date” to the limit by creating signals that you’re expecting a sexy night cap. From how your date makes certain body languages, you can tell and feel that she too is sexually interested. Should you give in to carnal craving? Not so fast! If you care about this woman, you’d rather have fun for the night or on another night and see how it goes from there. No sex on the first date will build the mystery between the two of you that is more intriguing and obviously worth waiting for.
The key to acing a first date is to just act natural. Take the pressure of yourself so that she’ll feel less uptight too. Just focus on having fun together because if everything went well both of you will definitely be looking forward to another date.
Just relax and remember: even if you do not come away with a second hot date organized, this is all practice and practice makes perfect. As you get better and better at dating, your first impression rating will soar through the roof and you’ll see that more and more of your dates will be interested in taking things further.