Dating older women is nothing new to the dating scene. Many men can attest say that there are valid reasons why they prefer to date older women. Because older women “have been around” much longer, it is hard not to acknowledge their wisdom when it comes to love, sex and relationships. Usually these women are in their mid to early 40’s, mostly single parents or newly divorced. The men that prefer to be with them are in their late 20’s and mid 30’s – men that are starting to become mature and avoids the shallow comings and goings of dating younger women, usually in their 20’s. Dating older women is not just a dating trend, older women themselves just doesn’t get a good kick out of being the hunter waiting for her prey. They are truly committed when they enter into a relationship with younger men. In fact, a relationship with them really flourishes.
So, convinced enough? You’ve been eyeing at this still hot chick in her mid-40 , wants to ask her out but you’re not sure how to ask her out or act in front of her when she agrees to go out with you. Because you’re young, you don’t want to be seen as someone who’s just in for the game. You do want to be taken seriously.
Here are some tips for dating older women:
Show some sign of maturity (don’t turn her into your mommy)
The thing about dating older women is that young men find them to be more mature. They speak their mind freely and take pride of their age, giving them that sense of confidence. They talk straight to the point and hardly play with any game. Being “around” much longer makes them wiser in all aspects. That said, you should also show some level of maturity when dealing with them. Depending on them to “teach” you everything may just turn them into your mother for which you’ll find yourself too clingy to her. This is not romantic at all.
Learn to converse wisely (they’d been around, remember?)
Just like mature thinking, you should also learn how to converse well with her. If you’ve adapted a conversational style with your dates in their 20’s, know that older women converse differently. They do not like to talk about just fashion or celebrities or anything lame, instead they’d like to discuss about life in general, anything motivating or inspirational, anything that will make you and her become a better person. Sounds too much to talk about? It’s not actually; it’s just that you weren’t used to these in your early dating experiences. These kinds of engagement will give new meaning to your dating that you yourself will start to look forward to.
Compliment her and avoid being too sexist
Every woman enjoys hearing compliments, so she would love to hear one from you. When you do this, make sure it is something that you feel sincere and not a “canned” compliment. If you want a no-fail compliment, start with her physical attributes like “you look so young with that kind of hairstyle” or “I like the way your face brightens up with that yellow top” or “you sure know how to take care of your health, you’ll give the teens a run for their money with that physique”. So long as the compliment is true, go ahead. Later, when in your conversations you find her piece of mind really amusing or motivating, then you may say “I am glad to learn about these things from you” – this will make her feel that you value her “intelligent” mind and not too intimidated by it. Avoid mentioning sexist remarks like “they say older women are blah, blah, blah”, this will somehow offend her. Whatever preconceived notion you have about older women, let that fly out the window for now and just focus on her best attributes, no more or less.
Make her laugh and lead her to adventure
This is how it becomes a win-win situation for older women and younger men. Younger men are adventurous and fun to be with. Older women may lack the time to go adventuring due to their responsibilities, so your being there may help add more “fun” to her days. Likewise, make her laugh – all the time! Pick-up lines are total cliché’, humor is sexy and engaging. Letting her know she could have a clean fun with you without having to pressure her for just sex will surely win her trust and confidence.
Go ahead and ask her out, it’s an experience worth doing. Don’t worry about raising brows and mockeries that in the beginning might stop you from doing so. Never mind the stigma a lot of people attach to this kind of date or relationship. What’s important is you’re happy and comfortable with yourself and confident about the situation.