30 and still single; that’s what you are. You’ve most likely reached “success status” at work and are quite comfortable with who you are and what you’ve become. You are no longer in the usual position trying to impress a lot of people, women included. Your taste in women too has changed; you now go by the intellectual stimulation rather than fleeting attraction. You’ve grown up indeed!
This time you welcome the balance of work and a relationship with someone special. Yes, your life is now in full swing! But unlike in your 20’s you are looking forward to a more fulfilling dating scene preferably with mature women. You can no longer afford “playing the field” and you’d readily trade a young hottie with a fine lady. You find this idea totally liberating, and yes, worth your while. Still wondering how to go about the dating scene in your 30’s, how to navigate online dating services and what sites to go to so you could successfully meet like-minded people? Here are just some of the proven tips for using dating services in your 30’s:
First, look for a respected online dating site
Of course this is the first thing you have to do; if you land on the wrong dating service site, then prepare to meet women with a little disappointment. Different dating services have different target users – some in their early 20’s, some in their 40’s – deciding on what kinds of women you want to meet (age, working status, place where they live) will make it easy for you to select the right dating service for your particular liking.
I wouldn’t recommend making use of the free dating sites; since these are free you can’t expect people that you meet there to be honest. You cannot always trust what they say or the images they put up to show how they look. Remember, time is important to you now; you’re too mature to waste valuable time with people who can’t even get their information straight.
Create a good profile, less the intimidation
It’s obvious that since you don’t want to stumble upon women with less than true identification, it goes without saying that you should maintain a very honest profile yourself. Likewise, use a current photo of yourself, avoiding being mocked later on for trying to look younger than you really are.
Feel free to brush up on your profile, but be wary of maintaining a blow-by-blow account of your accomplishments – sort of like blowing your horn gently, so to speak. While this may paint a picture that you’re indeed a prize catch, some qualified women with subdued personality may find your profile too intimidating to connect with you. It would be better to leave out your greatest accomplishments for now, saving it for later until you’ve met and ready to date the right woman. Besides, you don’t want women to get easily attracted to you based only on the accounts of your accomplishments. If they started to connect with you, you want to be sure they are doing it because they see something interesting in you other than your “executive” status.
Mind your expectations and just enjoy meeting women
If you’re already very successful at work or in your own business, then it’s possible that you’re expecting the same on meeting women using online dating services. Of course, you’ve already set the ideals on what type of women to meet, but strictly keeping a checklist may just fail you in your objective. Why not keep that checklist away and simply enjoy meeting women regardless whether they miss one or two points in your checklist. If you’d think about it, dating services aren’t just there to fix you a date with someone; it’s for meeting people of different kinds or for networking too. Sure, you couldn’t yet find a real match, someone that’s perfect for your liking; but who knows, with the friendships you develop with other women, maybe the one you’re waiting for will be introduced by any of these “new friends”.
Dating is fun at any age; the nature of dating scene and type of women you meet just varies depending on the “idea” of fun and “romance”. The more it is raised on a mature level, the more you can expect it to be fruitful, truthful and worthwhile. But don’t take it too seriously nor don’t be in too much hurry that you’re easily frustrated when things don’t come your way. Take dating in your 30’s as your new level of fun.