Let’s face it, if you are studying the body languages of girls so you’d know what they mean with their moves when you’re on a date; well, they are studying yours too – and more often than not, you do certain body gestures that give the negative impression to your date. So if you are trying to impress a girl on a first date, guess what, your negative body languages will make you miss those chances.
Sometimes, just out of habit we make gestures that turn off other people, we are unaware what certain body languages meant. But studies show body languages are accurate to their meaning even if at first we don’t admit them. It is best to study and master these body languages so you don’t make the mistake of “acting them out” when you’re out on a date. Once you’ve mastered them, you will find it enjoyable to decode a girl’s body language as well. She can no longer deny her true feelings for you if she says she’s not too interested, yet her body language is saying otherwise.
Didn’t they say that the eyes are the windows to the soul?
In dating, the eyes are the gateway to your connection and attraction. Just try to maintain eye contact and you’ll see what you are looking for – are they smiling back at you, is that a piercing look, are you sensing pain underneath the bright personality – you only have to look closer. But what about you, what do your eyes reveal? Are you totally engaged in her or do your eyes show that someone else caught your attention? Are you blinking rapidly because she’s making you nervous, or are you blinking in a slow and steady motion to connote that you’re as relaxed as can be? Use your eyes to let her know you are exclusively hers for the night, don’t let them drop and wander around the room. In order to send “I’m very into you” signals, try the “flick” technique where you drop your eyes from her to land on her lips; let it stay there for a few seconds before looking straight back at her.
Poise is confidence; use it to your advantage
Leaning forward creating an arched back is a sign of lack of confidence, contrary to putting your shoulders back and sitting up straight. When you are talking to her across a table, don’t cross your arms on your chest; this means that you are “doubting” what she’s saying or you’re being defensive (even silently), nor should you clasp your hands and lean your elbows on top of the table so you could have your chin rest on your hands. This shows you’re thinking of something else and not a bit engaged in your conversation together. Instead, place your arms wide open on the table to show you “openness” to her. Being open means not being judgmental to her opinions and thoughts.
Let your face do the talking
Your face, just like your eyes can say a lot about your feelings and thoughts. Ok, so you thought her story was incredible, don’t smirk. She’s too hot-looking she’s making you nervous, stop rolling your eyes. The cook brought your date the wrong dish and now you’re furious, don’t show that disgust or it might turn her off. No matter how you feel, unless it’s a positive feeling, be sure not to let that show through your face. Anger, doubt, sadness and fear are just some of the emotions that instantly show up from our faces. On your date, you only want to express joy and excitement. Besides, if you start to show these negative emotions through your facial expressions, she may just follow suit.
Watch your head
Yes, head movements reveal your true feelings. If you are saying something then lower your head to look to the side, it means you are unsure of what you’re saying. So to counter that, make sure to look straight at her when talking. Are you in a habit of “cocking” your head instantly when you hear something that is worth “challenging”? To your date, this gesture may give her the impression of your disbelief on what she’s saying; couple that with an arrogant smirk and a pair of slightly squinting eyes, and you got yourself one very annoyed lady.
Even if you know how to interpret body languages, don’t let that be your focus of your night. Don’t allow yourself to be too preoccupied in finding out what her actions “really” mean, rather than being really interested in “her”. Likewise, don’t be too conscious of your own body language that you’re missing time to enjoy your date.